7 behaviors that instantly make a woman seem insecure and immature, says psychology

Confidence can be a game-changer, especially in the world of parenting. However, sometimes, being a woman – and more so, a mother – can make us feel like we’re walking on eggshells.

Unfortunately, certain behaviors can make us appear insecure and immature, even when we’re trying our best.

Psychology tells us that these behaviors are often subconscious and unintentional. But the good news? Once we identify them, we can take steps to change.

Let’s dive in and uncover those seven behaviors that instantly make a woman seem insecure and immature.

By understanding these habits better, we can work on becoming more secure versions of ourselves – for our benefit and our little ones too!

1) Over-apologizing

Let’s begin with something we’ve all been guilty of at one point or another – saying “sorry” too often.

Over-apologizing is a behavior that can make a woman seem insecure and immature. It can give the impression that we’re constantly seeking approval or feeling in need of forgiveness, even when it’s unwarranted.

This can be a reflection of feeling undeserving or less than in some way.

Renowned psychologist Dr. Brené Brown once said, “When perfectionism is driving, shame is always riding shotgun.”

This constant need to apologize can be an offshoot of perfectionism where we feel the need to be flawless and hence, the constant apologies for perceived imperfections.

The key is to recognize when our apologies are necessary and genuine versus when they are simply a reflex borne out of insecurity. Awareness is the first step towards change.

2) Constantly seeking validation

We all enjoy a little pat on the back now and then. But there was a time in my life when I felt the need for constant validation.

I would look to others for approval before making the smallest decisions. It was as if I didn’t trust my own judgment.

This behavior can make us seem insecure and can be quite exhausting for those around us. It gives off the impression that we lack confidence in our own abilities and decisions.

Famed psychologist Carl Rogers said, “The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.”

In line with this, it’s important to realize that we are not defined by others’ opinions of us. It’s okay to seek advice, but ultimately, we need to learn to trust ourselves and make our own decisions.

Recognizing this behavior in myself was a turning point, leading to a much-needed change towards self-reliance and confidence.

3) Comparing oneself to others

Have you ever found yourself scrolling through social media, comparing your life to the picture-perfect lives of others? I know I have.

This behavior of constantly comparing oneself to others can make a woman seem insecure. It’s a trap that many of us fall into, especially in this digital age where it’s so easy to see a curated version of other people’s lives.

But it’s important to remember that we’re only seeing their highlight reel, not their behind-the-scenes.

Let’s strive to remember that we’re all on unique paths. Our journey is our own, not to be compared with anyone else’s. It’s about progress, not perfection.

Let’s focus on our own growth and celebrate our personal victories – no matter how small they might seem.

4) Avoiding eye contact

Eye contact is an essential part of effective communication.

However, avoiding eye contact is a behavior that can make a woman seem insecure and immature. It can give the impression that we’re not confident in what we’re saying or that we’re hiding something.

Eye contact can increase both the speaker’s and listener’s perception of credibility and trustworthiness. A study further emphasizes the importance of maintaining eye contact during conversations.

The researchers found that individuals who maintain eye contact during a conversation are often perceived as more reliable, warm, sociable, and honest.

Let’s work on holding our gaze during conversations. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but with practice, it can become second nature and help boost our perceived confidence.

5) Indulging in self-deprecating humor

I have a confession to make: I used to be the queen of self-deprecating humor. I thought it made me seem relatable and humble. But over time, I realized it was doing more harm than good.

Indulging in self-deprecating humor can make a woman seem insecure and immature. It’s like we’re putting ourselves down before anyone else gets the chance to.

While occasional self-deprecating jokes can be funny and endearing, constant put-downs can give the impression of low self-esteem.

Famed psychologist Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”

This reminds us of the importance of respecting and liking ourselves, as an essential part of our wellbeing.

Next time we’re tempted to make a joke at our own expense, let’s take a moment to consider how it might come across. Instead, let’s choose words that uplift us, not bring us down.

6) Being overly agreeable

Now this might come as a surprise. Isn’t agreeability a good trait? Yes, but only to a certain extent. Being overly agreeable can actually make a woman seem insecure and immature.

When we’re constantly agreeing with everyone, it can give off the impression that we lack our own opinions or that we’re afraid of conflict.

It’s important to remember that healthy disagreement is a natural part of life and can lead to growth and learning.

The esteemed psychologist Carl Jung said, “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”

In the spirit of this quote, let’s remember that it’s okay to have different opinions and to voice them respectfully. Our unique perspectives are valuable and deserve to be heard.

7) Fear of saying “no”

Finally, a behavior that can make us seem insecure is the fear of saying “no”. It’s like we’re worried about disappointing others or facing their disapproval.

However, as psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud says, “We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing.”

It’s important to realize that saying ‘no’ is a part of self-care. It’s okay to set boundaries and prioritize our own needs.

Wrapping up

Recognizing these behaviors that might make us seem insecure or immature is the first step. The next is making the conscious choice to address them.

Remember, none of these behaviors define us. They’re simply patterns that we can choose to change.

It’s all about embracing our individuality and nurturing our self-esteem. With awareness, acceptance, and a bit of effort, we can shed these behaviors and step into a version of ourselves that radiates confidence and maturity.

So let’s reflect, grow, and remember – our journey is our own, unique and beautiful in its own way.